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Product or Process: When God Makes Lemonade

Last updated on May 25th, 2020

Are you a product or in a process?

For way too many years. I saw myself like one big lemon, a big loser. But God was making lemonade. Life is so much better when you trust His process. 

Product or process: making sense of pressure

It’s okay, ya’ll. I’m not feeling like a loser nowadays… just trying to condense our pastor’s message from Sunday, and Genesis 50:15-20. Let me explain… 

Joseph endured many trials:

  • family tension
  • betrayal
  • slavery
  • false accusations by Potiphar’s wife
  • imprisonment
  • forgotten by those he helped

All the suffering – all that pressure – was a result of those who intended evil against him… yet God meant it for good.

Maybe this is all your fault… or maybe not!

Q: How many times did the enemy whisper in his ear, “None of this would have happened if you hadn’t bragged on your dreams? This is all your fault and you deserve it!”

The enemy always wants to convince you, you’re a lemon. 

But God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.

Genesis 50:20

God had a product in mind: Joseph’s ultimate triumph, and the birth of a nation. And He chose to allow all sorts of pressures in Joseph’s life to squeeze it out of him. 

Pressures are a process to create a product

I’m not comparing the “product” of my life to Joseph’s product. Only saying, the pressures God has allowed were all part of His process. Especially the pressures that were “my fault”…

  • the years of loneliness as a single person…
  • wondering what was “wrong” with me…
  • later discovering God was winning my future husband’s allegiance for good… 
  • the roller coaster early years of our marriage, tormented by vain thoughts…
  • “I’ll bet he’s cheating on me, it’s bound to happen, I don’t deserve him”…
  • finally learning to give my husband to God and trust Him to enable D to love me… 
  • the weary diaper years of insomnia…
  • realizing I’ll never be the “perfect mom”…
  • discovering God doesn’t judge messy homes, He delights in believing hearts (John 16:27)… 
  • the unutterable grief and guilt of our first miscarriage…
  • recalling a prayer born of my husband’s demanding schedule…
  • “I don’t want to be a single mom!”…
  • wondering if the miscarriage was God’s answer to my whining…
  • comforted by scriptures, learning miscarriage is not His punishment…
  • Jedidiah was “beloved of the Lord,” just like his exhausted mommy.

Every pressure held transforming grace as I learned to accept the process. Every challenge since the day I was born. And especially since I trusted Christ as my Savior.

Overcoming pressures we can’t control

God doesn’t promise any of us an easy road. And some of us go through some really icky stuff… stuff someone said was our fault… stuff that was the wicked choice of one who held power over us.

Thank God one day it ended.

Thank God for every victim turned victor, every wounded heart healed.

God’s children aren’t exempt from suffering at the hands of wicked men. Babylon invaded Israel and took Daniel and his three buddies captive. The “master of the eunuchs” became their overseer (Daniel 1:3)

So, yeah, castrated. Yet Daniel became second in command to the king.

And Esther was basically a sex slave who delivered her people from extermination.

Relieving pressures we can control

Many of my heartaches were (and are) my own silly fault. Financial pressures, relationship pressures, and health issues are often the fruit of seeds sown yesterday:

  • careless spending habits, and poor business practices…
  • relationships strained by selfishness and pride…
  • let’s not talk about the muffin top.

Left to our own devices, we’re all lemons. 

And yet… 

Submitting to the process to get God’s product

God has a wonderful, magical process He uses to bring forth His product. A product sweetened through crushing circumstances and in the furnace of affliction. Some make lemonade by squeezing out the juice, other recipes call for simmering lemons with the peel.

If lemons could speak as they went through the process, they’d complain, I’m sure. Yet their “suffering” and “trials” are necessary for the product of lemonade to exist. 

And you know something else?

You can be the very best lemonade in the world, and some people just don’t like lemonade.

It’s okay. Trust God’s process. 

He’s the only one that matters when it comes to judging the product.